With things that are finished, I guess it may be easy to have a sense of “closure” or a feeling that the thing is done.
I think I have lots of things that are unfinished, and some that are unfinishable: how do you manage this?
I guess we learn to accept that the unfinishable is out of our control, so maybe that brings it to an end.
Certain projects or things may take a long time, so maybe we have to accept also that certain unfinished things are unfinishable in the short term.
Maybe one of the tricky things is random unfinished projects that go in and out of feeling like they might be able to be finished: for example, I’ve lost contact with a lot of friends over viewpoints and time passing - the friendships could possibly be revived, but they’re not really active.
I’m not sure if these is unfinished or unfinishable. At any point they may come to their senses and things could change. But it hasn’t happened up until this point, and it’s kind of chaotic and unpredictable. I think there are probably some goals like this that I may have trouble managing at all.
As I write this, I think I realize I was just taught to procrastinate on finishing a lot of things. There was always tomorrow, except today is now that tomorrow. So I kind of want to finish some things up to move on to the next thing. It wasn’t just one person that has this attitude, it’s all over the place: people procrastinate on solving societal or political problems, I felt like school broke up learning things over weeks which sometimes could be finished in days, sometimes people say not to do things “rashly” but to wait and think about things.
But anyway, what has helped you bring a sense of closure to your life?